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Behavioral Problems

Why Do Cats Groom Each Other and Then Fight?

Cats groom each other when they have bonded together. This means that they are very comfortable in each other’s company, so you’ll often see one cat licking the other’s face and ears. To your surprise, something happens suddenly and the fur starts flying. Your two friendly cats are now fighting.

It is extremely rare for two cats who genuinely dislike each other to perform social grooming. The aggressive play includes kicking, pawing, rolling around, and chasing each other. All of the rough and tumble that you see is not real fighting, just playfulness.

We’ll explore the reasons why social grooming is important for two cats to get along well. We’ll then look at why some cats suddenly become aggressive, and the differences between fighting and playfulness.

Purpose of Grooming in Cats

Before looking at why cats fight, it’s necessary to address why cats groom. Quite a ritualistic exercise, all cats spend a large portion of each day going through their fur and cleaning every reachable part of their body.

While licking is the primary action associated with grooming, cats will also bite tangled fur and dig deep to locate fleas and various types of skin irritants. If you have ever watched a cat groom, you realize what a long and detailed task it is to complete this process.

The Washington Post details the process of cat grooming, as well as the social aspect of the behavior itself.

The act of grooming in cats goes far beyond the simple notion of using the tongue to clean. Like many aspects of the animal kingdom, there is often far more involved from a behavioral standpoint than meets the eye. Cats commonly groom for the following reasons:

Cats also know that when they have nothing else to do that they can always groom. Many times, grooming is a fixed exercise that cats can rely on.

It is not uncommon for a cat to use grooming as a way to ignore the request of an owner. Grooming can be used as an act of “busy work” as a stall tactic. Yes, cats are that smart.

Excessive grooming can be the result of an intense emotional crisis. The pulling and removal of fur can occur when a cat is having a difficult time adjusting to an environmental change. For example, introducing a new kitten to the household can cause tension and stress for a senior cat.

Why Do Cats Groom and Then Fight?

The best way to explain the act of grooming and fighting is the old adage of too much of a good thing. Why do cats lick each other and then hit each other? Patience has been lost. The good has gotten old and tiresome.

Although social grooming is an act of bonding, every cat reaches a point where it has had enough. Think of it as a hug that has lingered for too long.

Although cats that groom each other have a solid bond, some form of play fighting can develop. And, although rare, if the wrong buttons are pressed, a bit of play fighting could advance to the next level.

Hissing, squealing, slapping, etc. can be unleashed at that point. This is where it is critical for an owner to step in and make peace.

Most who have studied this topic suggest that a lack of patience is the tipping point. Because cats are naturally curious animals, and also like to walk to the beat of their own drum, the act of another cat messing with them for too long can lead to annoyance.

If it appears that your cat is telling your other cat, “I’m going to lick your neck clean before I bite it,” you are probably not too far off.

Grooming followed by fighting can be the result of an illness or disease detection. Although rare, some cats may stumble upon a flesh wound, infection, etc. in the cat they are grooming.

Once an area (or smell) of concern has been found, this may halt grooming and take a more stern and “standoff-ish” approach.

If grooming is often followed by a quick turn of events, you may wish to physically examine the cat on the receiving end of the grooming. Something could be wrong that is drawing the attention of your other cat.

What’s the Difference between Play and Fighting?

Play fighting involves rolling around, grabbing, kicking with rear feet, and quickly rising and chasing one another around your home or play area.

For the most part, no sounds of discomfort or anger are displayed. It is also common for said kicking and grabbing to halt suddenly, and both cats are entirely relaxed and resting together.

Real fighting, on the other hand, is quite different. An altercation is far more aggressive, deliberate, fast-developing, and nearly impossible to break up. The cats will chase each other, tackle, and resume aggression. Screams and squeals are often the vocal byproducts.

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The longer you own your cats, the easier it will be to stop a fight. While some play fighting can get a bit too rough, there is still a stark difference between the two types of behavior.

Although it is possible, two cats that have it in for each other will rarely engage in social grooming. If two cats are at odds, the last thing you want to do is be touched by the other cat.

If your cats are grooming and then begin “fighting,” you can almost bet they are engaging in fun and aggressive play. If two of your cats are scuffling (at play or otherwise), never walk away while it is in progress.

The American Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals (ASPCA) explains feline aggression, and how it can be managed.

What Are the Most Common Reasons Why Cats Groom Each Other?

Social grooming is done for a variety of reasons:

1/ Bonding Exercise Between Two Cats

Grooming is a form of bonding. This is why cats that enjoy grooming each other will rarely engage in a real fight. If your cats groom each other, this means that a lot of love and trust has been developed.

The two cats view each other as family. Grooming, in and of itself, is an exercise in trust. Why do cats lick each other’s ears? This is due to confidence in the group dynamic. Plus, licks to the face are a cat’s favorite area to show affection.

2/ Both Cats Are from The Same Litter

Social grooming tightens the bond within the family. Do you have young cats from the same litter and one older cat? The act of a kitten licking an older cat means that the senior feline has been accepted into the family.

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3/ Shared Affection Between Two Cats

Social grooming is a vital connection between kittens and adult cats, most notably the mother. This is a display of affection, as well as dominance and territorial marking.

It serves as a warning to others that “kitten X” is part of a specific family. The scent associated with licking is so strong that a mother may even reject her own if the kitten’s scent has not been changed enough.

This implies that the bond between a mother and baby can be broken if proper territorial markings have not been built.

4/ Acceptance of a Second Cat

Social grooming is also a form of acceptance if a new cat has been added to your household.

If your cats have taken an interest in the new arrival and begin to smell and lick them, then that is a good sign of acceptance and protection. By licking and grooming the new cat, the “family scent” has been transferred.

 Do Cats Socially Groom Other Animals?

Why does my cat groom my dog? Your dog is part of the cat family. While that may seem strange, trusting cats will accept almost everyone.

This is why it is common to see stories on TV of how cats and ferrets are best friends or how a senior cat is best friends with a bearded dragon.

If the trust and social bond are there, cats will lick and groom other animals. Two cats that groom each other and then fight is just part of the complex relationship that felines enjoy with each other.