Cats are sparing with affection, and often reserve their love for one person. This isn’t always their owner. A cat may gravitate more toward a friend or family member than their primary caretaker.
A common mistake that people make is attempting to engage with a pet constantly. Cats desire attention from humans, but they want it to be on their terms. This guide discusses the complex feline-human dynamic, and how cats choose their favorite people.
- 1 Why Do Cats Bond with Only One Person?
- 2 Why Do Cats Pick a Favorite Person?
- 3 Signs That You are a Cat’s Favorite Person
- 4 How Do I Become My Cat’s Favorite Person?
- 5 How Do Cats Choose Their Favorite Person?
- 6 Why Do Cats Like Me So Much?
Why Do Cats Bond with Only One Person?
Cats do not only bond with one person. Cats are more than capable of bonding with, and expressing affection for, multiple humans at once. However, cats have a favorite person.
You may bring a cat home, and do everything for them. Feed them, play with them, help with their grooming, change their litter, and much more.
Despite all these efforts, your cat may seem to prefer your husband or wife. They may be more interested in one of your children. If you have a boyfriend or girlfriend visiting the house, your cat may gravitate to them rather than you.
Taking offense is easy. That’s the way your cat thanks for you, after everything you do for them? Don’t judge your cat too harshly, though. You may be pushing them away without even realizing it.
Why Do Cats Pick a Favorite Person?
Your cat is not consciously choosing one person to adore above all others. It just happens when a cat feels like somebody understands them, and their needs.
Communication is essential to cats, and they cannot speak English. This leaves them reliant on people picking up on their subtle body language cues.
If you do this, you’ll make a positive impact on your pet. While you may think that you’re training your cat, they’re also training you.
Signs That You are a Cat’s Favorite Person
There are many ways to tell if a cat loves you. Insider lists these in detail. Cats can love more than one person, though. What you want to know is whether you are your pet’s favorite human. Their soulmate, if you will.
Typical signs that your cat values you above others are:
- The cat ignores other people and looks for you, even if you’re in a different room
- If you live with the cat, they will sleep in your bed, curled up against you
- The cat informs you personally that they’re hungry
- The cat drops toys at your feet, asking to be played with
Perhaps most notably, a cat will follow their favorite person everywhere. They’ll trot behind you from room to room. They’ll insist on accompanying you to the bathroom. They’ll sit beside you on the sofa.
If you enjoy this cherished position, enjoy it. Just don’t become too arrogant. It doesn’t make you a Cat Whisperer. The next feline to enter your life may prefer your spouse, or one of your children.
How Do I Become My Cat’s Favorite Person?
Cats are independent, and strong-minded. They’ll choose their favorite. There may be nothing that you do to sway them.
All the same, you should do whatever you can to make your cat happy. Your pet is not interested in being your court jester or servant. They think you’re another feline anyway, according to Cnet. As a result, they expect you to know how to act around them.
Things that matter to a cat, and help them choose a favorite person, include:
- Feeding. A cat will notice who controls the food. This will ingratiate you no end.
- Play. Cats also notice who plays with them in ways that they appreciate. If you’re phoning it in, your pet will know it.
- Security. Cats need to feel safe. They’ll appreciate a human that gives them space, and doesn’t back them into corners.
- Grooming. Cats that groom each other are demonstrating affection. If you help with their grooming, they’ll love you for it.
- Cleaning Litter. Cats are very clean. They will notice the person that helps them stay that way by changing their litter.
- Responding. Cats continuously emit subtle signals of their wants and needs through body language. If you respond appropriately, you’ll make a great impression.
- Trust. If you annoy a cat regularly by not respecting their boundaries, they’ll lose trust in you.
- Patience. What is most important to a cat is that you let them make the running. Somebody that forces a feline to interact will never be a favorite.
It’s impossible to stress just how important these final two points are. Your cat loves you, and craves your attention. They want it on their terms, though. Fail to acknowledge this, and everything else counts for nothing.
Cats like humans that are not too pushy. One of a feline’s least favorite things is being picked up unexpectedly. They consider themselves masters of their destiny.
If a cat jumps into your lap of their own accord, then great. Plucking a cat from their favorite cushion and dropping them into your lap, however? That will not endear you to your pet.
Cats also prefer people that understand the limits of their patience. It’s better to stop petting a cat five minutes before they’re done than five seconds after. This is another example of felines looking for somebody that understands them.
Cats believe that humans should speak when spoken to. They’ll announce when they’re ready for attention. If they are not asking for such focus, it’s best to leave a cat alone.
How Do Cats Choose Their Favorite Person?
Sometimes, instinct kicks in. Cats may choose their favorite person because they look, sound or smell like somebody they previously loved.
Let’s imagine that you adopt a rescue cat. This pet previously lived with a silver-haired old lady, who sadly passed away. The cat still misses and pines for her old owner every day.
You bring this cat into your family home, and they start a new life. Your cat learns to love everybody in the house. The inhabitants include:
- A burly and bearded gentleman with a booming voice
- A young, raven-haired lady that is busy keeping the house running
- Two boisterous, excitable young children that love to run and play
- A gentle, silver-haired old lady that loves to pet cats
Realistically, the cat is going to gravitate to the old lady. They will quickly imprint upon the person that reminds them of pleasurable experiences.
The opposite is also true. The gentleman in our hypothetical scenario could dote on the cat, and do everything for them. If a man with a beard previously mistreated the cat, they’ll always be cautious.
If cats do not have the experience to draw from, it comes down to how they are treated. Remember, your cat thinks of you as their equal, not their master.
Cats will also watch everybody in a house from afar, and make a judgment call. Just like humans, cats look for somebody they have things in common with.
If your cat is playful, they’ll likely imprint on somebody with high energy. If your pet is more sedentary, they’ll pick whoever spends the most time sitting down.
Why Do Cats Like Me So Much?
If you are not a ‘cat person,’ you may find that felines are irresistibly drawn to you. If you have allergies, you may actively try to avoid them.
Unfortunately, this indifference is attractive to a cat. When they meet somebody new, they’ll be curious. They’ll want to check out your scent and find out what makes you tick.
Some people, especially cat lovers, will take this as an opportunity to make a fuss of the feline. They’ll pet the cat, or pick them up for a cuddle. The cat did not ask for this, and finds it infuriating.
Somebody that has no interest in the cat is much easier to handle. The longer you avoid interacting, the more the cat can sniff you. They’ll react according to the findings of their nose, usually by rubbing against you.
Do you smell like a dog? That won’t do. The cat will rub themselves against you to overrule that unpleasant aroma.
Do you smell neutral? Then you are unclaimed by another cat. This will inspire cats to rub their scent against you. This sends a message to other felines that you have been marked.
You are, of course, unlikely to smell of another cat – especially if you’re allergic. These allergies can be problematic if a cat seems determined to follow you around.
How Do I Get a Cat to Leave Me Alone?
This is a challenging situation. You must never act with cruelty toward a cat. You’ll feel awful, potentially traumatize the cat, and more than likely end up scratched or bitten.
Acting cold and aloof toward a cat would seem to be the easiest solution. As we have discussed, this makes you more appealing. The feline heart is a fickle thing.
You can annoy a cat without terrorizing them by handling them without waiting to be asked. However, that will damage your health if you’re allergic.
The best approach is teaming up with the cat’s owner. When the cat approaches you, get somebody to quickly and efficiently take them away.
All through this, it’s pivotal that you do not react. Don’t touch the cat yourself. Don’t apologize and try to explain. Just carry on going about your business.
This process may have to take place many times. Sooner or later, however, the cat will get bored of this and delay their approach. You’ll need to continue the training at this stage, though. Cats can be persistent.
Get your associate to reward your cat every time they stay away from you. Periodically increase the time between treats, and the cat will eventually lose interest in you. They are getting nothing out of the relationship.
It’s an old cliché that cats choose their owners, rather than the other way around. There is an element of truth to the saying, though. Cats have favorite people.
If your cat seems to gravitate more toward somebody else, don’t worry. It doesn’t make you a bad pet owner. It doesn’t even mean they don’t love you.
There’s just something about this other person that attracts your cat. It may be based on memory, or it could be an X-factor. You can’t do anything about it. Just concentrate on making them as happy and content as you can.