Cats are known to be somewhat aloof animals. Despite that, many cats appreciate petting and rubbing from their owners. While some may only request petting now and then, others love it, but only in certain areas. Knowing your cat’s favorite spots and its hated spots will ensure your bond with the feline and avoid upsetting it.
Cats love to be petted on the head, ears, back, and around the neck. These are not overly sensitive areas and mimic the spots that cats rub against each other in the wild. Cats may also accept petting along the tail, under the chin, and along the cheeks. These areas also allow cats to scent-mark with their glands.
Most cats hate being petted at the base of their tail or on their bellies. Even the legs, paws, nose, and whiskers may be a step too far. These are sensitive and vulnerable areas, which may be uncomfortable or ticklish. With that said, if your cat was hand-raised and socialized to be handled everywhere at a young age, petting these spots may be relaxing and comfortable. You can find out by gently and cautiously trying to pet these spots and noting your cat’s reaction.
Do Cats Need Petting?
Most cats do not strictly need petting, but it does serve as a way to scent mark and show affection. Both of these things are important to the social needs of a cat and its sense of security. In the wild, feline colonies often greet each other by rubbing their faces and bodies together. This is similar to how owners ‘pet’ their cat and accomplishes three main things because it:
- Allows the cat to check on the health status and emotional condition of the other cat.
- Gives it a chance to rub its scent glands on the other cat and reinforce their mutual bond.
- Works as a soothing technique since it’s reminiscent of being nuzzled by their mothers.
In your home, your cat will seek out petting from you for the same reasons. The cat will be:
- Checking on how you smell, sound, and act
- Accepting affection like it remembers getting from its mother
- Updating its scent marking on you
According to Cambridge University, cats use scent marking to indicate which places and objects they value. While cats don’t defend territory, they routinely update their scent markings to send out a clear message.
With that said, a cat doesn’t strictly need to be petted. Some cats can satisfy this need for security and affection in other ways. They may form a stronger attachment to certain objects, other cats, or a more limited basis with you. If you have a more aloof cat that doesn’t often come to you for petting, it doesn’t mean it’s socially or emotionally deficient.
Instead, it may scent-mark different areas of your home or express love by bringing you its prey that it’s caught for you. It may enjoy sleeping near you or meowing to get your attention. It may even see you more like a pleasant roommate than a cuddle buddy, depending on the cat’s personality. At one point or another, most cats will ask for petting. If your cat doesn’t require this often, though, it’s just a matter of preference.
Do Cats Like To Be Petted Or Scratched?
Some cats want to be petted but will avoid you if you pet them in the wrong places. After all, if you asked for a hug, and someone squeezed your face instead, you might not ask for a hug a second time. In the same way, cats may appear more aloof than others and ‘dislike’ petting just because of a simple miscommunication. That makes it important to know:
- When your cat wants to be petted
- How it wants to be petted
- Where it wants to be petted
- Most importantly, when it wants the petting to stop
Cats have unique personalities and opinions, much like people. By learning and respecting them, you may find an aloof cat suddenly asks for petting more often (and doesn’t randomly hiss in the middle of it).
Scratching is a classic example. Some cats don’t want to be leisurely stroked with an open hand. Instead, they will prefer to be gently ‘scritched’ with your fingers, using a mild amount of pressure. This can help your cat enjoy a good massage or alleviate an itch.
Other cats might find this too forceful and retreat from your space if you try to scratch them. You can tell the difference by cautiously trying both on your cat. If the feline retreats or doesn’t seem to appreciate the gesture, you can try something else.
Do Cats Like to Be Petted on the Head?
Cats like to be petted on the head because it’s a difficult area to reach. While a feline can scratch this area with its paws, the back of its head requires a bit of contorting. Getting a little help is a relaxing, pleasant experience.
Cats also use their head as the main way to rub and scent-mark companions. As such, cats will welcome touching on this area. Your cat will feel as if it is bonding since it’s allowed to express its scent and mark you.
Why Do Cats Like Being Scratched Under The Chin?
The underside of the chin is a tender area and very close to the throat. As such, cats that distrust you will not enjoy being touched in this area.
However, if the feline already feels safe with you, it will be happy to accept scritches here. It’s another area of the body that is technically accessible but a little more difficult to scratch satisfactorily with a paw.
Cats also have scent glands on their chin, which they use to express vital information about themselves to other cats. These glands need to be stimulated from time to time. Your cat will enjoy the chance to scent-mark you with this comforting spot.
Do Cats Like Their Cheeks Rubbed?
The cheeks are very close to the eyes, so wary cats will avoid letting you touch this area. However, if you’ve developed a bond, cats will enjoy having this sensitive place rubbed.
While cats groom this spot, they don’t place much focus on it, so it will be pleasant to have this underestimated area groomed. It’s like a face massage.
As a plus, cats also have scent glands on their cheeks. They use these to express themselves when bunting with other cats. By rubbing or petting this area, you are helping the cat stimulate these glands and effectively marking yourself.
Do Cats Like Their Whiskers Rubbed?
Some cats love having their whiskers rubbed. Others detest it. That’s because the whiskers are very sensitive, used by felines to take in and interpret more sensory information. In a way, they’re like small and delicate fingertips.
As such, rubbing these hairs can be soothing and pleasant. It can also be uncomfortable and over-stimulating. It will depend on the cat.
Overall, cats need to be trusting and well-bonded with their owners before allowing their whiskers to be touched. If you try to touch this area without permission or with a wary cat, it might retreat immediately. You may also pluck or bend the whiskers by accident, causing pain.
To find out if your cat enjoys this type of petting, you should approach it with caution. Start by rubbing its head, then its chin, then its cheeks, and work up to the whiskers. If the cat pulls away or stops purring, then wait and try again later. If it continues to rebuff or refuse the petting, then leave this area alone.
Do Cats Like To Have Their Noses Petted?
Like whiskers, petting a cat’s nose may be extremely pleasant or uncomfortable. It will depend on your cat, its personality, and how much it trusts you. In general, it takes a very affectionate cat to accept this type of petting.
A cat’s nose is soft, sensitive, and takes in a great deal of sensory information. It can be an overload of smell to have your fingers on its nose. Since noses are delicate and full of nerves, it can also be irritating or even ticklish to have this body part touched.
For other cats, it can be relaxing. Like a foot or hand massage, rubbing these delicate nerves might put your cat into a trace. The feline may also enjoy the chance to sniff you more intimately, learning more about your unique scent and even your health status.
Do Cats Like Their Ears Rubbed?
Most cats enjoy having their ears rubbed. That’s because mother cats spend extra time licking their kittens’ cheeks, chin, and ears. The act stimulates their scent glands and also keeps the area tidy.
As such, cats will find it soothing and familiar to be petted in this area. It will remind them of the comfort and safety of kittenhood. As a plus, the fur behind the ears is a prime area for fleas. Rubbing or scratching the area can provide relief if the cat has an infestation.
Do Cats like Their Tails Petted?
Most cats don’t strictly like having their tails petted. They may tolerate it, especially if it’s a part of a greater petting routine. For example, if you run your hand along its head, down its spine, and across the length of its tail. The cat will mostly enjoy the head and back petting and not mind the tail becoming being involved.
However, most owners find that if they only pet the cat’s tail, the feline will complain. If you try to hold onto the tail or massage it between your fingers, the cat might get annoyed, pull away, or even react aggressively.
That’s because the tail is a sensitive and vulnerable area. There are many nerves in this body part, and it contains many fragile bones. Getting bit or yanked by the tail can be hard for a feline to prevent, so it will protect this spot.
If your cat lets you pet this area, that’s a sign that it’s friendly and extroverted. It’s very trusting that you won’t harm or overstimulate the area. If it pulls away, however, don’t take it personally. It doesn’t feel comfy with this area being touched!
Why Do Cats Like Being Petted at the Base of their Tail?
The base of a feline’s tail has the most condensed amount of nerves. This can make it delightful to have stroked or highly uncomfortable.
On average, it takes a very trusting cat or one that was hand-raised to accept petting in this area. Most other cats will find it ticklish, overwhelming, or edging on dangerous. After all, if you were to inflict pain on this spot, it would be painful. Since cats are known for their independent and cautious nature, not all of them are willing to take that risk.
If you don’t know the cat well or are still bonding, try to avoid this area. Most cats will shift out of your reach or even bite in response to being petted here.
It’s very similar to poking you in the armpit or behind the knees. Is there anything wrong with these spots? No. Is it sometimes nice to scratch there? Yes. But it’s also sensitive, so not everyone gets to do it.
Do Cats like their Paws Rubbed?
Cats use their paws for everything, from touching to scratching and hunting. As such, massaging this area can be relaxing for a cat.
However, felines are also very protective of this spot, as it’s their primary means of defense. Having their paws restricted, poked, or prodded can feel invasive and vulnerable.
Most cats need to be trained or conditioned to allow handling around their paws. Experienced cat owners often massage the paws of young kittens to get them used to this sensation. Touching this spot on an adult at random usually results in the cat extending its claws and trying to pin your own hand.
Do Cats Like Being Pet on the Back?
Most cats like to be petted on the back. The back covers a large area of their body, and it isn’t overly sensitive. Petting or scratching your cat’s back can bring it comfort, as this place likely gets itchy from time to time.
Moreover, cats will often raise their backs when they are being stroked here. It allows them to lean into the gesture and guide your hand to itchy spots or tense muscles. The gesture shows that it trusts you completely.
Do Cats Like Being Pet on the Belly?
It’s rare for a cat to enjoy belly rubs, even if it’s closely bonded with you. This is an extremely vulnerable part of the body. Most cats only lie on their back when they’re preparing to fight. It allows them to pin the rival with their front legs and scratch their delicate underbelly with the back legs.
As such, if your cat flops over and presents its belly, don’t take it as an invitation. It may be luring you into a playful trap, ready to close its legs down around your hand. It may also be stretching and dislike when you violate its trust by taking advantage of that moment.
While some cats do enjoy belly rubs, they are the outliers. You should only ever try to pet the area cautiously, slowly, and if your cat shows its stomach to you long-term. A few-moment stretch isn’t an invitation. Rolling on its back for a minute or two and meowing at you might be. Be sure to watch out for those claws, just in case.
Do Cat’s Think Petting Is Grooming?
Many animals see petting as another form of grooming. For example, dogs, parrots, and even some primates associate being touched or rubbed to remove insects, dirt, and other filth. However, cats rarely share that task with other felines.
Instead, petting fills its own role for cats. Felines associate it with expressing the scent glands all over their bodies. This allows them to mark territory and reaffirm their connection to favored:
- Other cats
- Even owners
As a plus, most cats are licked by their mothers when they are kittens. Because of this, they learn to see petting as a way to strengthen emotional bonds.
Where Do Cats Not Like To Be Petted?
Every cat is different, but most will avoid being pet on the:
- Base of the tail
These are vulnerable areas that are full of nerves. It can be dangerous or just over-stimulating to be touched here. Likewise, felines are cautious animals and dislike having the option for escape taken away. If you pin the legs, hold them, or rub them, the cat may feel trapped. It would need to struggle against you to back away, and that’s an unpleasant realization.
Aside from that, resist the urge to cradle your feline’s head in your palms. Most people often do this to their own babies, as it helps to support the head and relax the children. Cats, however, do not like this. It inhibits their ability to move, back away, or bite defensively. Even if you’re not harming the cat, it will feel trapped and may react aggressively.
How to Tell If a Cat Wants to be Petted?
Some cats will forcefully bunt their head against your arm to demand petting. However, others will merely stand nearby and wait for you to reach out. If your cat is more subtle, it can be difficult to know when it wants a good cuddle. The good news is, even subtle cats give hints when they want affection. This could be through their:
- Stance: The cat might stand in your lap, sit next to you, or stare at you expectantly from the arm of your sofa.
- Vocalization: Some cats will meow or purr to get your attention. If all its other needs are met, such as its access to food or ability to use the bathroom, it’s likely asking to play or be petted.
- Actions: If the cat is more forceful, it may bump against you, rub its face on you, or paw at your hand.
If you’re unsure, reach out to your cat. It may immediately rub its face against your hand or move closer. These are clear signs that it wants to be petted.
If the cat doesn’t approach, wait a few seconds to see how it reacts. If it remains still, try to pet it gently. It may have an aloof personality and expect you to come to it. It may also be disinterested in petting and just want to share a space with you. In the latter case, it will step out of your reach or show signs of displeasure, such as:
- A lack of purring
- Hair standing up
- Ears back
If these signs crop up, do not pet the cat. Give it space, and do not try again until it’s calm or has moved further into your space. You can also consider how you tried to pet the cat. It may have wanted the affection and disliked the way you went about it.
How To Pet A Cat Properly
Cats don’t like rough handling or boisterous affection. As such, you need to approach the feline carefully and be sure to respect its boundaries. Cats aren’t loveless and cold pets. They can be highly affectionate and cuddly, just on their own terms.
In fact, according to the Swiss Archive of Veterinary Medicine, it’s important to let the cat initiate the petting. This typically makes the cuddle sessions last longer and reduces the chances of the feline getting upset. Here are some tips to remember:
- Start with ‘safe’ areas that most cats like, such as the head and back
- Only move on to more ‘grey areas, like the tail and chin, if the cat appears responsive
- Avoid holding the cat tight or pinning it
- Give the cat room to back away or stop the petting
- Apply a steady but gentle amount of pressure
- Only increase pressure if the cat leans into the touch
- Listen for purring and other signs of happiness
Why Do Cats Bite When Getting Petted?
Sometimes while being petted, your cat may grab onto your hand and start biting or nipping at it. This is usually because the cat:
- Disliked the way it was being petted
- Got overly excited and started play-fighting
This is also known as petting-induced aggression and captures the behavior more aptly than the term ‘love bite.’ While these bites are usually not strong enough to pierce the skin, they are not signs of affection. Petting-induced biting is usually a good indicator that your cat wants the petting to stop immediately.
Why Do Cats Purr When Getting Petted?
Cats purr as a way to communicate happiness and contentment. As such, if you’re petting the cat and it begins that rumbling hum, take it as a good sign. The feline wants you to continue.
Cats will mostly like being petted on the head, back, and ears. Although some will tolerate petting on the tail, belly, and throat, this indicates a strong amount of trust or a hand-raised cat. Not all felines will accept it, so you can learn through trial and error with your cat. If it bites or moves away from a certain type of petting, you should stop. If it leans into the touch and begins purring, you’re on the right track.